So you’re upset that the Boy Scouts of America are being bigots and are still banning gay members? I guess I’m going to be the only one to say this?
What did you expect? Seriously, everyone is getting so upset over this, sending back medals, demanding something be done. But why? Why now? They’ve had this same position for years. I wonder about the sense of people sometimes; everyone who is getting upset over this needs to step back a second. We’re talking about a religious organization. Their top sponsors are some of the largest Christian denominations in the country and most of those organizations are not at all tolerant of homosexuality. So why is everyone so surprised? Suddenly you think that because you’ve grown more tolerant as a person that your church has as well?
That is the thing about religious organizations. The church is not concerned with making you or anyone else more comfortable, happy, or appeased. They don’t care if their intolerance bothers you. They aren’t made to dance to your drum, you are supposed to dance to theirs. And that is just the way it is. That might trouble you–it certainly troubles me. That is why I don’t belong to the Boy Scouts, I don’t belong to a church. Because frankly I am not a bigot and I don’t accept that brand of morality. But it isn’t your place or my place to tell someone else how to live their lives.
There is a odor of hypocrisy about it all when we demand that religious people keep their hands off our secular laws, our secular education–we do not have the right then to demand they adhere to our moral viewpoints in their own institutions. They don’t have to send their kids to public school, we don’t have to send ours to the Boy Scouts.
This is what is called ‘living in a free society’–we have to tolerate other viewpoints which directly conflict with ours sometimes, we have to put up with bigots, and they have to put up with us. We want to legalize gay marriage in this country–I’m for that, and my main argument is ‘if you don’t approve of gay marriage, your church does not have to offer services to gays and lesbians.’ And they don’t have to do that (unless they are taking money from the government–and in that case, that is why we have lawyers). So the same can be said about the Boy Scouts.
You can point out the irony that, even with gays banned and with all of those heterosexual Christian men, thousands of sex abuse cases have been reported. You can intimate that bigotry in youth will breed bigotry in adulthood. But you can’t do anything about this.
As a private organization they have a right to be whatever they want to be. Clearly they are not hurting for funding, they get most of their youth members from religious communities, so they’re not going to suddenly abandon their sponsor’s religious convictions at the risk of losing their money. If you don’t like it, tough. There are much better secular organizations you can send your children to that do not discriminate. So stop whining about whether or not the Boy Scouts are fitting into your mold of decency. They don’t have to be decent. So just don’t associate with them if that bothers you.